How To Stop Being A Booty Call | Dating

Two years ago I wrote an article on knowing the signs on whether you’re dating someone or just a booty call. Some may have read and concluded that they were in fact a booty call. Hey, there’s nothing wrong with that but if you thought you were “dating” that person, it could suck. So I’m going to show how to stop being a booty call…

Take Back Your Dignity

First, girl you have to take back your dignity. The past is in the past so don’t worry about that. But you need to gain a little bit more self control. You don’t need to have sex with guys who don’t give a crap about you. You’ll feel so much better not doing that. When it comes to sex there’s a lot of ego and power play involved. Some guys do have that conquer mentality where they want to conquer as many kitties as they can. Especially an independent woman like you. Some want to feel above and throw it in your face OR diminish your value by calling you easy. Who cares. You aren’t who they say you are. You are who you feel you are. Do you feel used because you thought it was something it wasn’t? I hope not, because this is your life. So reclaim your dignity and hold your head high. Nobody can get you down. Put your nose up in the air and strut away from the past where you felt bambuzzled or used, it no longer exists.

Stop Answering

Second, stop answering. Girl say no to drugs. Sex is a drug and you can definitely say no. I bet you, when you say no he’ll do all the things you wanted him to do. But, do you still want to do those things? I hope not. If he didn’t want you when you were open and willing, then he shouldn’t want you now. Well, he definitely will want you now but you don’t need that. You need someone who sees your value and doesn’t see you as a game or level up. It’s all about the chase and you don’t have to play the game (if you don’t want to). Don’t confuse his attempts as “realizing your worth” either. He just wants to put you back in the same place for his enjoyment. Tsk tsk tsk.

Set The Stage

Third, set the stage……..for the next guy. Now my problem was is that I was the “cool chick”. Yeah we can hang out and blah blah blah. But I got nowhere with that. I didn’t have much expectations. If you know the type of relationship you want, set your expectations and let them be known. Let him know that you do not appreciate being called after 12pm to “chill”, let him know you would like to go to dinner sometimes, if you want flowers tell the damn man you like flowers. When it comes to dating, a man will try you. He can be a good guy or a bad guy, he will still try you. He will still see how far he can go. It’s up to you how far he can go. So next time tell him, “I don’t appreciate you hitting me up this late to come over” or “I’d really like to do this with you…”. If he doesn’t comply, gets offensive or acts like you want too much….HE IS NOT FOR YOU. Okay, so don’t force it with anyone.

Thank you for reading and feel free to vent below….

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